I think that love can be and is "unconditional" up to a point. That point being, when we are taught what is OK and what's not. It is the things we are taught by society that tend to dictate the "conditions" of love. Children love unconditionally, why? Because they haven't been taught that this is OK and that is OK, but this over here is not OK. I agree with Julie, love should just be love without putting any "but" to it. Unfortunately, we do that all on our own because of how we are taught.
For me in particular, I have to *remind* myself that I can love unconditionally and thus, must stop nitpicking others based on my own points of view. On that note, however, here again, based on my own taught points of view, I choose to not love some people at all, much less unconditionally....like...ohhh... Ted Bundy comes to mind.image