you know, if you do pay attention to how you react emotionally to any given situation you are reacting as a result of your reality, or your learned behaviors and thoughts .... someone can contribute to say, anger, but there is a point where you can control how you react.... i was just thinking of one of the 4 agreements,
Don't Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
now most of us know this ... it is the learning to accept it that is hard sometimes.. . when you have learned something completely opposite to it.